3 Easy Ways To Become Popular
A few guidelines that will help you be social, in social situations of course. Say for instance you are at a small get-together, house party, dinner party, or meeting some new friends out for dinner.
In these situations you might end up meeting up with old friends, yet the number of new friends outweighs the older ones.
You could end up being stuck sat in a corner counting the minutes until you get home, or you can end up meeting some of the most, coolest, successful, forward thinking individuals that ultimately influence your life for the better. Oh yeah, and you will become popular.
1. Start talking immediately.
The longer you wait to talk, the weirder things become. The harder it becomes for you to start opening your mouth. You need to become a blip on everyone’s radar. Without talking, your blip is weak and not even seen. Start talking and you send out your signal. If there is a girl there that you are into, then you will have to engage her in conversation.
2. Remember names
You can’t engage her in conversation if you are not talking. So immediately when you enter the social situation, what’s the easiest way to start talking? Easy, just make sure to introduce yourself to everybody. Get all of their names.
Huge points if you can get into conversation immediately with the last person you introduced yourself to and remember the name of the first person you introduced yourself to. Using names will strongly engage people in conversation. A person’s name is the sweetest sound thing to them.
If you don’t know how to remember names. Use associations. One of the easiest ways to make name associations are with celebrities. If she says her name is Jessica. Think, Jessica Alba. If she says her name is Christina, think Christina Aguilera. Don’t mention the name association to them. This is just for you. Then, imagine for a second, visualize, the celebrity and the person who you just met hanging out. Get a clear picture in your head. Make it as specific and detailed as possible. This is guaranteed to make sure you don’t forget their names.
*BONUS*
This is how this works. It’s called mnemonics – here’s a game that you can play with someone you just met.
1. sun
2. shoe
3. tree
4. door
5. hive
6. sticks
7. heaven
8. gate
9. wine
10. hen
Now, remember that. It’s actually super easy. Don’t share that with anyone. Now, tell them. I can remember any 10 things you write down on this paper. Write them down, I will look at them, and I can remember them, at any time, even tomorrow (seriously you can).
Their list might go something like this.
1. Bowling Ball
2. Jet Plane
…. and so on and so forth.
It’s easy to memorize this list no matter how complex their items may be. This is how you do it. 1. Bowling Ball. Just visualize the bowling ball and the sun. Of course, anything that is numbered will have a corresponding item that is easy to remember. #1 being the sun. Be as descriptive as you can inside your own mind. Visualize the sun going bowling. The more ridiculous, the better and easier to remember.
So now, once you have done that with all 10 items you can give her back the paper. Anytime she says a number, your mind can easily recall the item associated with the number. If she says #1. Then you know that #1 rhymes with sun and you remember thinking about the sun going bowling. Not only will it make you popular among some new people, but you can also tell the girl you met to text you the next day with any number and you will still remember the item listed.
3. Storytelling
This tends to be one of the more important things. A lot of us develop good storytelling skills for many reasons. Yet, you can develop storytelling skills quite easily. Here are a few ground rules.
Bragging, justifying and qualifying. If you find yourself telling a story and all your doing is trying to make yourself sound cool, typically people will tune you out.
You know that guy. He always says things like “I did this, and I did that, then this happened and blah blah blah”. This is the kind of guy that people tune out, because he thinks he knows more or has experienced more than other people. And no one likes to have to compete when in conversation our goal is cooperation. It’s the easiest to become popular.
A good story has a few essential elements. But here are some extra ones that you probably haven’t thought about and can give your stories an extra boost in awesomeness.
Good stories have a Who, Where, What Happened, Conflict, Resolution & Punchline. But, what makes someone you just met stop listening to you, is the lack of a punchline or point.
Most of your stories have a Who, Where, What Happened, Conflict & Resolution, but what they are really missing are a point. A moment of self-reflection or a punchline.
Self-reflection is easy. You can start the sentence by saying “Now, looking back on that I now realize…” and fill in the blank. This will force you to self-reflect and allow the person to feel like they got the pay off from the story. Without, they will wonder why you are telling them these things. They will start to think you just are talking because you wanted to feel good about yourself, brag, and get validation or approval. Seeking approval shows feelings of inadequacy. Women are not attracted to unconfident men. Sorry.
As for the punchline. People find things funny when they have one or both of either elements: superiority and surprise. You can find this in all comedy. Watch your favorite comedy shows and notice what made the joke funny. It was superiority, surprise or both. Here is example illustrating what I mean.
Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
This is funny because of the superiority factor. You the listener feel superior to the idiot. It also has surprise, you might have thought that you wouldn’t argue with an idiot just because he is an idiot. Yet, the change in perception makes the idiot the knowledgable one. Well, at least knowledgable in being stupid.
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