Top 3 Myths Exposed: How To Get That Girl
Mainstream media would have you believe that women want one thing, while in reality they really want another. More specifically I mean what hollywood movies would have you believe is that all guys need to do is chase a girl until she realize she loves him too. Every love-movie/romantic comedy has a similar plot. It is so easy to replicate and duplicate.
Guy meets girl. Guy gets girl. Guy disappoints girl. Guy loses girl. Guy realizes he really loves girl. Guy confesses his love for her (usually in public). Cue slow-motion-rotating-camera-kiss-scene and you have your happy ending. Though, not the massage-kind, I mean the fabricated and artificially spawned happy-ending hollywood hopes you fall victim to. Yeah, I may be taking it a bit too seriously, though most men do. We see this as reality. That this plot-line can actually play out in real life.
Well I have news for you buddy, it doesn’t work out that way. In life, the cameras never stop rolling. What do you do, now that you have got her? Better yet, let’s get rid of the idea that a story fit for the movie screen would work in your favor anyways. Let’s make this distinction, in a little article I like to call Top 3 Myths: How To Get That Girl.
1. Myth Number #1: You Get A Girl By Being Her Friend First.
This is so far from the truth. Please, don’t make the same mistake I made. I had to learn the hard way. To later find out that I had the chance to hook-up with a girl the first night we hung out. It doesn’t matter if you get rejected. It’s not about you. You are a man. You are built to roll with the punches. As far as we know, we only live once and I’m not going to sit around and wait to find out. That’s why I started approaching women and pushing my interactions forward. I don’t want to be 80 years old, saying “…Only if I had manned up…”
What you probably don’t even understand is that, a girl gets all dolled up, takes hours to get ready, puts on the most uncomfortable heels ever and you spend all night with her and not once make a move. You know what that is to a woman? That is rejection my friend. You didn’t even know, but because you didn’t pull the trigger, you actually rejected her and made her feel less attractive. She doesn’t need another friend. Every cute girl has a line of guy friends hanging around her hoping that they will be the lucky “break glass in case of emergency” sexual partner for her. It doesn’t work that way.
Just make a note to at least try to go for the kiss. Just once. If she rejects it, then fine, wait for the second date. If she goes on a second date, of course she’s still interested, but only because you were able to show interest first, as a man should. A woman will forgive you for being a man, before she ever forgives you for being a wimp.
2. Myth Numero Dos (that’s spanish for Number #2): Girls Like The Strong-Silent Type.
Another idea the media would have men believe is that women are after strong and serious men. The kind of stone faced men that have zero to little personality. Where do these ideas come from? From a show, tv commercial or movie that which none last longer than an hour or two? I’m sure we spend a lot more than 2 hours of our days being social, especially when dating someone.
Being flexible enough to encompass all the traits of an attractive man is what allows women to feel compelled to enter into an intimate relationship with you. Being able to express all spectrums of emotion allows for her to feel as if you are no longer two separate people. Instead it will seem as if you are both one. When two people come together and let go of the outside world and just allow for each other to explore the way they truly feel without inhibition, true love can be created. If guys keep holding onto this tough guy persona, they may excel out on the street where men compete for their place at the bottom, though women aren’t impressed by a guy putting on an act out of insecurity.
3. Myth Number #3: She Wants You To Take What She Says Seriously
I know this may sound bad. Sorry ladies, but let’s dig a little deeper for better understanding. Guys, if your girl comes home upset about something that went on at work and she is complaining and going on and on. What do you do? Most guys would immediately jump to a conclusion. They would help her out by offering a solution. “But, baby if your boss stole your favorite pen, why don’t you just ask for it back” you try and convince her through logic.
Though she’s saying that she has a problem, she is not looking for you to fix it. She just wants your attention, and your understanding. It may be confusing to a guy at first, but understand that there is usually a deeper rooted issue to anything she ever has an emotional connection to. Instead of taking her reaction to situations at face-value, slow things down and ask yourself “does she want me to seriously help, or does she just need my love and affection?”.
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