Working Out Your Social Muscles
So, in order to be able to attract the most beautiful woman in the bar there are a few prerequisites. I’m not talking about special lines or routines to do, I’m just talking about the way you carry yourself. Remember communication is 60% body language, 20% vocal tonality and 20% verbage. So, the words you are saying have little to do with the way you are being portrayed to women. You communicate your confidence through your body language, your actions and how you carry yourself.
For instance, if you were to just walk straight up to the hottest girl in the bar it may portray a lot of neediness. Of course, we know that neediness is an attraction killer. So instead, why not come off as an all-around social guy? Instead, just talk to everyone around you. Then when you do get around to talking to the girl you attracted to, it won’t seem as if you are attracted to her. Instead, it will seem as if you are just being social just as you do with everyone else. This builds her curiosity in you which in turn is essentially what attraction is. Purely curiosity.
Though, I know some guys have trouble being able to go from being not so social into being socially active, I know that the easiest way to do so is to talk to people who are being paid to talk to you. Speak to the staff and see how long you can hold conversation. Try as hard as you can to keep conversation going and see if you can learn something from them.
Being social is just a muscle like any other. You need to work it out. If you have been out of the game for a while, you are going to be a little rusty getting back in there, though we have what is called ‘muscle memory’. This doesn’t only go for working out, but also socializing. If you were good in the past, it will take you a lot shorter time to get back up to speed with meeting new people even though you may have been cooped up for a while. So, get out there and start getting social!
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