What Comes Before The Attraction Phase?
What comes before the initial stages of an interaction? When you first start talking to a girl, typically you want to build attraction, better known as curiosity. Though, in order to reduce chances of rejection or objection, we have to look at what comes even before the stage of attraction.
My good friend Milton Miller and I had a talk about this and he coined this idea. So, I give him due credit. I believe that lifestyle, is what comes before the stage of attraction. You need to have your lifestyle figured out, and no I don’t mean condoms. Ultimately, lifestyle is defined to be a manner of living that reflect’s a person’s values and attitudes.
As you may already know, your value is what tends to attract women. More specifically, your personal value is what is attractive to women. More importantly, women are attracted to men with personal value and social status. This is because it gives a man the potential to fulfill his gender role which is to provide and protect for her. This in-turn allows her to feel more like a women, and ultimately, be content with her relationship.
So, how can social status and personal value be represented through the manner in which you live your life? Understand, here I am talking about how your life is portrayed not how your personality is.
Social Status ultimately means that people need you. Personal Value is the how much you feel you deserve. You can have social status by being someone who people go to for help. Whether it is financial, emotional, physical, or intellectual support, if there are people who depend on you, you now have high social status. You are now attractive.
To have high personal value you could change the way you perceive yourself. This is done in a number of ways. Ultimately, the way you feel about yourself will be communicated through your language, body language, actions, behaviors and beliefs. Start doing things for yourself. What do you like to do? What are your excuses for not doing them? Well, stop making excuses, and just do it. As far as we know we only live once. Someone with true and high personal value will never do anything they don’t like to do and only does what they like to do, without hurting others of course.
Use this as a guide towards building an attractive lifestyle. Before you ever approach a girl, how do you expect to keep her if you can’t make everyday you spend with her seem like the first day you met. Keep learning, keep growing, be passionate about the things you love and share them with the world.
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