Saying “Thank You” To Break Down The Great Wall of China We Put Up In Conversations & Relationships
I’ve said before that manners can go a long way. Really, they can get you far. This holds true for many different situations. For instance, if you were an outsider speaking to a group of people you just met, being manner full will make them to accept and follow you, become a lot easier.
This also holds true in a relationship. Whether it be an intimate relationship or a friendship, a lack of appreciation can be the breaking point.
More specifically, the biggest reason why women leave men, is because they don’t feel appreciated. You can see where saying “thank you” can be so powerful.
This is just a muscle like anything else. If you haven’t used your ‘appreciation’ muscles all that often, then most likely you are having a hard time making this something that seems natural and is easy.
In fact, saying “thank you’ might actually be a bit uncomfortable for you. So, let’s break this down. Answer this. Why is it that saying “thank you” at this specific time seem to be something uncomfortable? Is it because there are people around? Is it because you think they won’t accept it? Is it because you think they already know you mean well? Is it because you think they don’t think you deserve to say thanks? Really get to the root of it.
Now, that you have the answer as to why it may be tough in certain situations, be able to distinguish ‘the story you made up about it’, between ‘actual fact’. How do you know for sure, that what you are thinking is true? How will you know for sure that they won’t accept a ‘thank you’?
The only way to know for sure is by telling them “thank you” and then finding out if it was appropriate or not, in that moment. So, go find out. The world is your social laboratory. Most likely, it is totally fine to say ‘thanks’. So, saying “thank you” will not only cure your uncomfort, though it will also make you feel better about yourself because it takes confidence.
It may seem like not the right time to say thank you, though pull that person aside and show your gratitude. Tell them, “I really appreciate everything you did, for me, Thank You, really” add smile. Not only is this a great moment for you and the other person, but it also allows the other person to have reason to help you out again in the future, because they know that you are thankful for it.
Kind of cool, huh? By saying ‘thank you’ you can get more investment from someone else. Sweet deal.
Try and say “thank you” for everything. I mean everything. This takes the power in saying ‘thank you’ to a whole ‘nother level. Imagine if you were in disagreement with someone and you wanted to get them to understand where you were coming from. In order to keep from making this a heated debate, how about you say “Thanks for sharing” add genuine smile and empathetic look in your eyes. It has surprised how much saying
“Thanks for sharing”, allows the other person to feel appreciated and listened to. This is probably more important to them than their opinion.
I challenge you today, to go out and say “thank you” as much as possible. Now, that you know why it’s important, you have to put it into practical use, even if it may not seem natural at first. Exaggerate a bit, and make something your purposefully do and in no-time it will be something natural and something people admire about you. You may start to feel more appreciated by others to. Thanks for reading.
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